In what ways does grasping grief help people manage loss?

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Can users further explain how comprehending the stages of grief can assist a person cope with loss in a better way?

Answer 1

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Thank you for your interest in science!   -- Andrew

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Thank you <3 My dog died in February, he was 17, we were one for 11 years, always playing outside, for hours. I did not really have parents or family, my best friend died when I was 14, a lot of abuse in my house. Loss, grief, and celebrating what there was and is, it is such an important, impactful subject. I have been frozen since February, it's summer, I know, but I just can't leave the house for long. I am going to listen to this episode. Love to all beings, culture and nature.

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He used to have Blond Hair. His beef jerky and sponges have been delivered to Stanford.  Love, Elizabeth.

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Thank you.

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Before the doctor begins I want to have my say so as not to forget the point of view of my many pains, affections, feelings, call them what you want virtual, or only in my head, or communicating by chatting, many times, many times I had to delete the chats after days, weeks, or months, even after a year once (it was also sporadic) I felt pain, And I cry for this loss of communication, contact, attention we only talk about chatting

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Seneca suggested we can be immune from grief… if you want a man to keep his head when the crisis comes, first you must give him some training before it comes.

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Two days in a row and with two different Huberman Lab podcasts, I drove home with tears in my eyes.  A couple of years ago I lost my wife of 41 years and, shortly before that, had to put my 22-year old cat to sleep.   Both were my best friends and were special forces of nature.  Both were sudden losses.  It's all heartbreaking.  Thank you for these podcasts.  This podcast with Dr. O'Connor helped me scientifically understand what's going on inside me and the others in the same situation.

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Grief is just love with nowhere to go. If you’re here reading, you’re not alone. Sending love to anyone hurting today ❤️

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Thank you, I am taking all of it very hard.

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Thanks, sending you good vibes

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That does not mean anything… anyone who likes this does not know grief, they are virtue signaling because both of you are narcissists that want attention as if you were good decent humans while in reality you do nothing for people that are in actual grief.

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❤❤❤❤thank you ❤❤❤

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Oh, that's beautiful, thank you, good soul

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I'm sorry to hear that. One thing that helped me immensely was Julia Samuel's app - grief works. Lovely community and really helpful in working through your grief. I hope it helps you too.

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Community is everything.

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Back at you and anyone reading this ❤

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Oddly enough, I always feel like I’m grieving someone. Lost love. Lost fur babies. I’ve even been grieving the missed opportunity to have a good relationship with my dad. I needed this today. Thank you so much.

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Going through the hardest breakup of my life. This is what I needed

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It is hard to leave and even harder to be left. Regardless, I have been there many times in my 50+ years of life on both sides of the coin.
What has helped me is having a dog to co-regulate your heart and getting a couple of new sets of sheets to lessen the scent of the other.
Take good care of yourself. Love will come again.

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, you try again. Condolences to you and yours.

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a dog and trying again is what they all say. You ever try to paint something pretty with only black colors?

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I’m so sorry for your loss- this grief is just as strong as any that someone can feel. I pray you heal soon

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Me too.❤

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Her use of pause while delivering important information is excellent and allows time for us to process. I would like to sit in on her lectures.

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I noticed the same thing, thank you for pointing that out.

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I have Dr O'Connor's book "The Grieving Brain" on my bedside chest for many years. It's a must read for everyone.

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Been grieving the loss of my husband of 34 years.... he took his own life almost 2 years ago and I gotta say year two is worse than year 1. The heaviness of grief can take my breath away.  I'll carry it forever and that thought can be exhausting

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guys I'm literally crying rn... was about to end it all last month after losing everything (job, relationship, savings). Found a book Manifest and Receive by Eva Hartley the same day through a big podcast. The quantum field chapter hit me so hard I couldn't sleep. Started applying the frequency techniques and I'm not even joking - within a short period my ex reached out, got offered my dream job (150k+), and my anxiety completely disappeared. I never share personal stuff but I'd feel guilty keeping this secret when so many are struggling. The way Selene explains manifestation through quantum physics is EVERYTHING. If you're reading this, it's a sign from the universe. Trust me, understanding the science will change your entire reality. I'm living proof ✨

Answer 10

Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

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Just ran an online search on his name and came across his website; pretty well educated. thank you for sharing.

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Absolutely, his offerings extend to global delivery, prioritizing complete confidentiality for individuals valuing their privacy.

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This channel has the weirdest advertisements in the comments.

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Its some kind of bot scam I see it everywhere. Initial comment and then a few different bot accounts say the same thing every time

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Another Marketing Spam Bot invents itself a following to make you believe it's lies.

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Every time I think, "that was, hands down, the best Huberman podcast yet!" you manage to find another amazing guest with such profound and insightful information ❤ Thank you so much for sharing Dr. Mary-Frances O’Connor's wisdom and compassion with us.

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Thank you!

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I took care of my husband (who had end stage lung disease)for 4 yrs and lost him in my arms at home last May. It was the death he wanted and we got to say all we needed to. That said, one year later I continue to be LOST.  My children are grown, and his side of our family is grieving, so I find myself slowly deteriorating as I compartmentalize my grief.
I had no idea how traumatic it would be to turn off his breathing equipment and see his limbs turn purple as he died.  I am an Occupational therapist by trade, so I’m so grateful I was able to care for him, but I sure have no desire to go back to healthcare. Now that I’m on a fixed income I mostly live in sadness and fear.
Thank you for this podcast.

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Thank You so much for the love and support for late husband. Thank you for the sacrifices you’ve made. Others will tell u to get a dog, or try again at love, but they don’t full understand what is happening. My profession was not health care, yet cared for my wife who also suffered a lot. The coldness of the hands when they pass away, the terror and horror we have experienced, I don’t know who can help with this? While others were writing books, we were holding hands. I’ve tried to move forward, and ya get more pain.

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I hope you can get better, my son died, and a couple of months later, my soul dog, that held me through, it's incredibly hard to get through, you'll never forget, because you loved, but maybe, you'll find a new purpose, that holds you true

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This is the next episode I will be listening to over and over. Thank you HL team for releasing this episode the week of what should have been my due date. Needed this. ❤ Loss crushed me but also brought me back to life.

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Dr. O'Connor has a brilliant mind, such deep empathy, and a passion for this very sensitive topic. It was an honor to listen to her, learn from her, and to understand the complexities of the grieving process. Thank you Dr. Huberman for always bringing the best of the best to your podcast. As a psychologist myself, I appreciate all the "continuing education" I can get...just wish I got credit for it:)

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My grandmother passed this morning and I’m struggling. Perfect timing, thank you

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Sincerest condolences.  I will be thinking of you.

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Condolences to you

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So sorry for your loss,

Answer 16

Dr. O'Connor's explanation of grief as a natural process tied to love and attachment really resonated with me. Grieving isn't something to fix—it's something to understand and live through. Thank you both for sharing these insights with such compassion and clarity.

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This is an extraordinary conversation. I have been in this field of grief for many decades both with my practice, my groups and in my own personal life. The depth and scope that Dr. Mary-Frances O'Connor brings to this discussion of grief and loss has touched me deeply. Dr. Andrew Huberman is a thoughtful and thorough and a wonderful presenter and interviewer, too. Thank you. I am passing this conversation on to those who need you - which is many. Kindly, Mary Jane Hurley Brant

Answer 18

This would have been helpful to me a decade ago. When I finally had a minute to grieve the loss of my marriage and dream, I became completely unhinged and unrecognizable as I sought dopamine through unhealthy situations. Glad it's being talked about.

Answer 19

Hollyhocks are blooming like crazy in my garden. Every time I walk by them, I think of my Mom. When I was a little girl, she told me they were her favorite flower. I'm not sure they really were her overall favorite, but in that moment they were, and hollyhocks always take me right back there.

Answer 20

Dr. O’Connor, your cheerfulness is infectious! May I also live with joy amidst the consciousness of death ❤

PS Dr. Huberman, please issue a trigger warning at the start that su*cide is mentioned. Very helpful conversation but others might be triggered negatively.

More power to both of you!