In what ways does grasping grief help people manage loss?

Question

Can users further explain how comprehending the stages of grief can assist a person cope with loss in a better way?

Answer 1

Thich Nhat Hanh teaches that we can talk to our dead loved ones through mindful walking and breathing in the here and now. Not through necromancy, but by being aware that they are present in our bodies, thoughts, feelings, consciousness, and mental formations. They are there in the stillness of lakes, solidity of mountains, freedom of space, and beauty and freshness of flowers

Answer 2

Has Andrew written a document for us once he passes? We all would miss you too

Answer 3

Step father died of stage 4 cancer. It really traumatized me to see someone you love wither away in just a month or 2 gap. It broke my heart I hugged him and all I could feel was bones. I broke down on his shoulder and he told me he was going to be ok. Such a strong man. Miss him with all my heart goddammit. He died while my mom poured out her heart to him and a single tear rolled down his face. However he died with a small grin on his face he must have heard us. I hope he did.

Answer 4

Absolutely incredible content! Thank you!

Answer 5

My oldest child, a trans man, won’t talk to me, and I don’t know why. I have reached out with sincere love and humility to tell him open to hearing from him why, but he is neurodivergent and inflexible, so it’s now just part of my life that I don’t know where he is or what he’s doing. There is a dark hole in me that will NEVER go away.

Answer 6

Today I found out that my grandmother has stage 4 pancreatic cancer with metastases to the liver and I am devastated… I dont know how long she will live… the content comes at the right time to prepare for the loss that lies ahead of me

Answer 7

Lost my best friend suddenly almost 4 months ago. It was a complete shock to everyone, she was only 28. It felt like a crime to smile or laugh or to just simply be happy. It’s been a process but I’m learning how to have a relationship with her while she is not earth bound. We weren’t on the best of terms during her passing and I felt so guilty for not being there and allowing something so petty to get between us but I’m starting to forgive myself. I often joke that she didn’t have to pass away to make me get over it. Rest in peace G, I love you.

Answer 8

I never understood why anyone would want to take their own life until my wife of 40 years passed away. The constant pain is so unbearable, I would do anything to not feel that way. I drank every day for three years and felt true physical pain. One day I did not feel that terrible pain. It was like a switch was turned off in my stomach. It became duller and less painful. I was able to think of my wife with love and remember the good times. I started to go out and date again. Eventually I met a wonderful woman and we have been together now for a year. My late wife will always be a part of me and in losing her I realize how much I loved her and appreciate the new love I have found. I show that love to my partner more than I did my whole life knowing how lucky I am to have found another. It was a terrible journey that I survived and I knew that most everyone had gone through it, but it was my loss and it felt like my world ended and I did not want to continue this life. I'm glad I did not take "the easy way out", the suffering has made me a better man.

Answer 9

My mom died 2 months ago. I came home from work and found her. It was unexpected and it broke me. Her sister who was like a mom to me passed away 7 months earlier from cancer. I read my mom grieve herself to death. I tried so hard to help her but I couldn’t. Now I feel so alone. I still live in the house I shared with them.  I don’t know how to move on from this. I feel stuck in grief. I just don’t know how to get out.

Answer 10

Please do an episode on Mold Illness and CIRS!

Many people would benefit from this.

Answer 11

Please have a guest you talk with about mental health. Since it's the men mental health awareness month. I appreciate your time

Answer 12

I was just going to suggest this!! Thank you so much

Answer 13

This content is super valuable, thank you.

Answer 14

How did you know I am going through a breakup? Needed this more that you will ever know!! LOL

Answer 15

Time does not ever heal your children being kidnapped. Never. Nightmares never go away.

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thank you for such good information that I’ve learned from this content.She is AMAZING!!
 Andrew, thank you for going in so deep with grief. I’m grieving my mom and dad who passed away nine months apart in between my parents passing I lost several other family members. Super grateful that you are really speaking about grief and bringing it to the forefront! Reading your talks about grief has helped me stay sober, has helped with my emotional sobriety and more importantly… how to continue live my life in all my grief in my life. is it safe to say it’s traumatic for me?!

Answer 17

Thanks for the conversation. Hopefully an entire episode can be allocated for the discussion of disenfranchised grief, because it involves other people.

Answer 18

I lost my father when I was 13. We had a bit of an estranged relationship due to parental divorce and moving across the country. It’s hard to grow up as a young man and not have your father’s love or guidance. A very isolated feeling.

I’m still struggling daily with grief even 17 years later. Truly is just soul crushing and empty feeling that doesn’t go away.

Answer 19

So well timed… every time