In what ways does grasping grief help people manage loss?

Question

Can users further explain how comprehending the stages of grief can assist a person cope with loss in a better way?

Answer 1

Its wild what emotions does to the human experience, especially the psychosomatic symptoms. Thank you as always AH with these guests!

Answer 2

Thank you Andrew for bringing this guest and your team for putting this out. Just finalized my divorce 2 weeks ago so this came at the perfect time as I'm grappling with grief and healing…it's exactly what I'm looking for. Sending love to everyone who is suffering

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I’m red eye crying because both are describing just what I’m feeling. I had a dream about my dad approving of a big purchase. And I have not been able to shake the feeling of his loss even after sharing with my siblings.
This content definitely helps me understand the loss process.

Answer 4

Thank you for posting this very important topic, Andrew.
O'Connor's book "The Grieving Brain" helped me immensely in understanding my process after the loss of my spouse. Grief is a continuous journey that has no end, but you do get better at navigating the course. Understanding how it affects you physically and neurologically offers you the grace you need to move onward with hope.  I also lost my previous partner to suicide without a note -- I had to accept the fact that his decision was his alone and that I was a very small twig on a very large bonfire in his mind.

Answer 5

I am grief right now. Over someone who is not dead. Over a relationship I chose to end and don't regret ending. But I still miss her and love her.

Answer 6

I wrote my first novel, "A Broken Hallelujah" to deal with my own grief and to explore how many types of grief affect our choices and life's trajectory. As my brother just passed last week, I am using that as a guide on how to move through it.

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I am truly sad for your loss, keep him close in your heart.

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How and why did you loose your brother? I am so sorry.

Answer 7

I am reading this for the second time today. Grief and despair - the path towards understanding the nature of reality. I'm on month 6.

One day at a time

Answer 8

My father passed away last year, and recently I lost my dog, who meant the world to me. Thank you Dr. Huberman, for everything that you do.

Answer 9

Unfortunately grief is a part of life, it can happen when we lose an opportunity we were really hoping for, or we lose a loved one/family member. I still haven't gotten over my mom passing... The important thing I learned was to never judge myself when these feelings come up and realize that I still have the ability to make beautiful memories while I'm here!

Answer 10

One of the best episodes - I enjoyed the speaker a lot

Answer 11

I lost my 11 year old daughter in 2013. The point at which she was gone longer than she was here has been a hard thing to sit with. It seemed like just yesterday that she passed but that her life was so long and full. How can that be? I live in beautiful San Diego and her death was on June 19th and it also feels terrible that the sun shines on that day even though it’s always shining here anyways. I have found that I sit alone in my grief mostly because I know others have loss and I don’t want anyone to feel like theirs isn’t important if I’m outwardly crying about my own. So much to unpack, I know. Thank you for doing an episode on this topic. I’m having to digest it in small doses but will get through it all. Much love to you and keeping science real. ❤

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So sorry for your loss, I can't even imagine the pain you must have felt. I have lost so many family and friends, some very young, and it is always hard. I know they wouldn't want me to grieve forever and move on, hope u can too.

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So sorry for your loss ... can't even begin to imagine what it is like to lose a child. Sending prayers your way.

Answer 12

Thank you for this content!!! Wonderful discussion and incredible guest!

Answer 13

Andrew, you have interviewed a jungian before and it kindled my interest in psychiatry. I would like to know more about how it performs nowadays and whether it is considered not scientific enough. Jung’s idea of synchronicity fascinates me!

Answer 14

I am learning how to live with the loss of my beautiful Frida, my soul-dog, my best friend ever. When I spontaneously start looking for her and then realize she is not here, I find her inside my heart.

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I totally understand, I feel the same with my loss of my pets, being parrots, especially those that became ill and even with veterinarian intervention I couldn't save them... accept keep them cuddled with me until the end. Most people understand the grief of a dog or cat, but don't understand how precious birds are as well. I wish you the best in healing.

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Same. My brain still expects to see the dog chillin' in his crate when I come down the stairs every morning. I'll never forget how soft his ears were, and I'll always be looking for the light on his collar in the darkness when I sit on the back porch at night.

Answer 15

"There will be no one like us when we are gone, but then there is no one like anyone else, ever. When people die, they cannot be replaced. They leave holes that cannot be filled, for it is the fate - the genetic and neural fate - of every human being to be a unique individual, to find his own path, to live his own life, to die his own death."
Oliver Sacks

Answer 16

As much as I wish I didn’t, I needed to hear this podcast. Despite the tears I shed while listening, this episode was beautifully done.

Answer 17

Going through an incredibly tough time after a divorce, health and financial issues and tragic loss of a friend in 6 months. I'm a skater from Sydney from back in the 90's and ended up moving into medical technology.
I just wanted to say thanks, Andrew, for getting me through another lonely week, mate. You give a lot of us sad souls a bit of hope, and with practical protocols I can do, even in this dark place is everything right now.
I don't think I'd be alive this month if it wasn't for your podcast brother. Keep up the good work ❤

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Hi Ken sounds like you’ve had a nightmare time lately and I’m so sorry for your losses and troubles. Hang in there, things will get better in time. Just wanted to say hi from the UK

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Thanks brother, appreciate it ❤️‍

Answer 18

This has ripped at my heart in a huge and beautiful way.❤Thank you!

Answer 19

I was getting weekly massages after my father passed. I needed touch but my heart was so broken, I didn’t want hugs—I just didn’t have the right people around me to get a pure agape love hug. The massage helped me transmute the pain from my grief into a loving remembrance. By healing my body, I was healing my broken heart.

Answer 20

I loved this content. I loved your guest. So inspiring! Such an important subject to discuss.