How does understanding grief assist individuals in managing loss?

Question

How does comprehending the process of grief enable people to cope with loss in a better way?

Answer 1

Lost my best friend suddenly almost 4 months ago. It was a complete shock to everyone, she was only 28. It felt like a crime to smile or laugh or to just simply be happy. It’s been a process but I’m learning how to have a relationship with her while she is not earth bound. We weren’t on the best of terms during her passing and I felt so guilty for not being there and allowing something so petty to get between us but I’m starting to forgive myself. I often joke that she didn’t have to pass away to make me get over it. Rest in peace G, I love you.

Answer 2

It's my podcast and I'll cry if I want to (or not).  I did. What a brilliant human being. Thanks a lot for this.

Answer 3

Lost my ex when I was 17... she accidentally overdosed on sleeping meds. She suffered from schizophrenia. I'm 32 now and honestly have tried for years to find someone similar, and ive always had bad relationships because it wasn't the same. Something was always missing until I went for someone totally different. To help my own sanity.  It still hurts and when I find people with her lovable quirky personality or looks I still somedays lose myself.  But I'm happy ive finally moved on a bit.

Answer 4

Thank you Dr. Huberman, team, sponsors and supporters. ☀️ THANK YOU DR. MARY-FRANCES O’CONNOR.

Answer 5

Working at a hospital (Desert Springs Hospital in Vegas) as a lab tech. I walked into a patient's room and witnessed this woman in her late 60s take her last breath. Her nurse was notified and she simply draped her body with a white sheet. The patient was not surrounded by any loved ones she was completely alone and I stood there for a few moments and felt this overwhelming sadness for her. She looked peaceful she wasn't attached to any ventilator or heart monitors. She was on a regular wing of the hospital. But it was hard to register that she died alone. I didn't want that for my mother and we talked about it before she began to decline cognitively and began experiencing advanced mental health compromises. She wanted to remain in her home until the end. My father passed away alone in a nursing home. The nursing home called to notify of his passing. We would visit him but he passed away alone. Those issues of guilt are tough because no one wants to fail the people we love.

Answer 6

¡Hola Profe! I am not even going to pretend that I didn't cry throughout the conversation. But every single moment of a miracle called life is a gift. And how and with whom we share this gift and what legacy we will leave is up to us. Thank you for all your hard work and care for all of us.

Answer 7

Time does not ever heal your children being kidnapped. Never. Nightmares never go away.

Answer 8

My daughter died suddenly when I was 39 weeks pregnant with her. The grief is overwhelming and earth shattering and then 2 years later, I lost my beloved cat at 18 years old. It left me with an inability to connect with anyone.

Answer 9

My mom died 2 months ago. I came home from work and found her. It was unexpected and it broke me. Her sister who was like a mom to me passed away 7 months earlier from cancer. I saw my mom grieve herself to death. I tried so hard to help her but I couldn’t. Now I feel so alone. I still live in the house I shared with them. I don’t know how to move on from this. I feel stuck in grief. I just don’t know how to get out.

Answer 10

"There will be no one like us when we are gone, but then there is no one like anyone else, ever. When people die, they cannot be replaced. They leave holes that cannot be filled, for it is the fate - the genetic and neural fate - of every human being to be a unique individual, to find his own path, to live his own life, to die his own death."
Oliver Sacks

Answer 11

Thank you for this content!!! Wonderful discussion and incredible guest!

Answer 12

Please have a guest you talk with about mental health. Since it's the men mental health awareness month. I appreciate your time

Answer 13

Thank you! This has been my struggle and reading this is helping me reframe...

Answer 14

If I may extend her insights about grief in the context of bereavement to the context of heartbreaks, I feel there are quite some lessons that are antithetical to popular narratives. One, that deep attachment and longing for a partner is a primal instinct and it is not about lack of self-love or fulfilment. Two, that a rebound relationship is not all that bad. It is a subjective experience of dealing with grief. Three, that hangover of an ex-partner while enjoying the company of a new partner isn’t shameful but natural oscillation of mind.

Answer 15

How did you know I am going through a breakup? Needed this more that you will ever know!! LOL

Answer 16

Thank you!  I've been having a hard time grieving my parents. ❤

Answer 17

Was about to search and listen to your previous grief episode and this appears! Unfortunate good timing.

Answer 18

Thank you for this important topic. But honestly, I missed something. This is often "forgotten" when talking about grief. There are people, and there are quite a few, who lose an important person, such as a parent, with whom they had a traumatic relationship. Childhood trauma is a prime example. The grieving process is different for people affected by this. It's not simply more grief or less grief compared to someone who loses a person they really loved and had a caring and loving relationship with. Complex feelings are involved, with a great deal of ambivalence, which gives grief a different twist. This is almost never talked about.

Answer 19

this is wild… I've spend years trying to manifest my dream life but it never seemed to work for me, I always hoped for a sign that something would finally shift. I believed in manifestation but didn’t know how to make it actually work. Then someone recommended Manifest and Receive by Eva Hartley and it just instantly clicked. The way she explains things, it’s like she’s speaking directly to your soul. That book is the reason I’m living my dream life today. If you’ve been waiting for a breakthrough, this is it❤️❤️

Answer 20

I am really grateful!
After the previous episode on loss/grief understanding guided my journey (Dad passed Dec 24)
I remember thinking an episode with Mary Frances would be amazing … and here we are … at exactly the right time
Keep the good work going